Post-Event Loneliness

Loneliness after events is a very common experience. After the music stops and the glitz and glimmer of the party fades, it can be very difficult to return to life as usual. Just know that it is perfectly normal to feel this way!

Depending on whether or not you have taken substances, you may also be experiencing a comedown, including agitation or depression. But there are things that you can do to feel better and people who can help you.

Here are some things to try if you are experiencing post-event loneliness...

Savour the memories

Appreciate the moments you did have and the memories you’ve made. What did you enjoy? Who did you meet? If you took photos of the event, go back through them and take a look. Call someone or message people who you can talk to about the event. Write in your journal or text yourself a message.

Build your body back up

Partying can be taxing on both the body and mind. Your feelings may be a sign of physical exhaustion. It may be time to take stock and build up your body's resources once again. Drink water and get plenty of rest. meals during this time may also really help get your body feeling well again and will help improve your headspace.

Talk it out

Let someone know how you are feeling, you may even find that others are feeling the same way! It can feel weird or awkward to let someone know that you are feeling a little down after an event, but it may help you feel better.

Connect to like-minded people

Sometimes we can feel down after a party because we are missing connection with like-minded people. Some easy ways of building more connections into your life is through volunteering with organisations you really care about or joining pre-existing groups in your neighbourhood. Think about the hobbies you have and the values you have. Is there a way for you to connect to other people who share these same things with you?

Get help

Feeling lonely and a little down is perfectly ok. However, if you are noticing that your feelings are lasting for longer than a few days or that you are having thoughts of suicide, we recommend that you get in touch with a doctor or another professional right away.

If you need some immediate professional support, there are plenty of hotlines that you can reach out to.

• Q Life 1800 184 527 (3pm to midnight every day)
• Lifeline: 13 11 14 (24 hours)
• Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467 (24 hours)
• National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline: 1800 250 015

Additionally, you can visit ACON’s digital suicide prevention hub which has lots of resources for LGBTQ+ people experiencing suicide ideation or friends/families/loved ones looking to support someone in their life who may be feeling this way.